All of us have been taught to be nice to others, try and extend help to others and be accomodative as and when possible.  They taught us that being nice to others gets you others feel good about you.

 

No longer, I would say.  Today, if you are nice, the first thing people do is to take advantage and make a fool out of you.  Not just in everyday life, but work place, family, everywhere.  Let us define, what is being nice.  First of all, trying to be as accomodative as possible.  Help others, go the extra mile so that others are happy.  Never knowingly hurt others heart with words/actions.  Most important of all, feel good and talk good.

 

Today, if you are nice to others, you become the loser.  Worst thing, your close aides make fun of you, term you as incapable and teach that you have to be smart.  I know there is just a fine line between smartness and cunningness.  Smartness to you may mean cunningness to the other and vice versa.

 

Take work place.  Those who keep constantly complaining on others and thereby showing how they are better seem to grow quicker than those who seldom complain on others.  More than growth, it is imperative for one to find fault on others and thereby highlight one's strength, to survive.   Even appreciating the other person is very very precious or usually well orchestrated.

 

Take family.  If you are kind, people take you for granted and don't hesitate to utilize maximum resources from you.  The moment you start questioning, you become "suddenly bad"

 

Take social life, in Trains/Buses/Auto/Traffic, everywhere, you got to have the "I am first" attitude else you would be left behind not just in traffic, but in life.

 

Fortunately/Unfortunately, I have the genes from my mother who doesnt know cunningness and I would remain like that throghout my life.   I am fine being left behind, for I will always have the last bus to catch

 

At least it gives a sense of satisfacation that I did what I feel is right although others keep compalining to you on that.

 

Cheers !!!